The Dangers of Comparison— You Always Have a Choice

A few years ago, when I was in early recovery, a sober friend told me that she was jealous of me because sobriety seemed easier for me than it was for her. 

What would you say in response to that?


Well, guess what.  I just found myself having a similar experience listening to the callers into an NPR show, talking about their Dry January! 

One caller said that since they had NA beverages to fill in, they found Dry January easy. EASY- WHAT?! said the voice in my head.  How could that be? 

Another caller said they couldn't wait for it to be over so they could go back to hanging out at the bar. "That's more like it", I found myself thinking. 

Do you find yourself doing that? Comparing your inner life to the outward expression of someone else's? Feeling a little resentful when it seems like someone else is having an easier time than you? Or is it just me? ;) 

Then I heard Laura Silverman, of Zero Proof Nation generously promote other NA location apps (like our local BuzzCutt!), and I felt inspired by her generosity and kindness.

She reminded me that I can choose love at any time. So I did. 

Here's the piece on NPR, if you want to give it a listen.