My Sober Girlfriends: Where Badass Sober Women Make Meaningful Connections
Hey there sober human! I see you, and I think you’re a badass.
If you’re craving deeper connections and looking for a place where others value their sobriety as much as you do, My Sober Girlfriends is here to offer you the right people, the place, and the inspiration and encouragement you need— both online and in-person. We’ve been in Portland, Oregon since 2019… but dreaming of expansion, so stay tuned!
Is This You?
You Want to Feel Seen
For your own reasons, you’ve eliminated alcohol and drugs from your life. You know it’s the right choice, but now you feel lonely. It isn’t that you’re alone, but you’ve changed… and the people around you haven’t.
Loneliness isn’t about how many friends you have; it’s about the gap between the kinds of connections you want and the ones you actually have.
While your old friends may be supportive, they don’t truly get it.
They say things like, “Just one wouldn’t hurt,” or pressure you to drink for a special occasion. They don’t mean you any harm, but deep down, you wonder—if you told them you were drinking again, would they be relieved?
You’re Looking for People on the Same Wavelength
Maybe you even have friends who don’t drink, but they’re “cali-sober,” which means they’re getting high and on another plane… while here you are, hanging out fully present.
Why does this matter? The US Surgeon General called the current situation a loneliness epidemic. The longest scientific study of happiness established a strong correlation between deep relationships and well-being. It isn’t a “nice-to-have”—relationships affect our mental, emotional, and physical health and even longevity.
You should know: It’s healthy to crave a place where you can be steeped in the vibes of other people who also value an intentional, fully present life—people who get you, accept you, and inspire you to keep evolving into the most brilliant version of yourself. After all, isn’t that why you’re sober?
Besides that, it makes sobriety a lot more fun!
*My Sober Girlfriends is for women and non-binary folks who feel comfortable in a woman-centered space.
At My Sober Girlfriends, we believe sobriety is a powerful, full-spectrum way to live with clarity, confidence, and connection.
Meet like-minded women
Finding those smart, inspiring, sober women who truly get it can take years. We do the work for you, so you can spend less time searching, and more time connecting with women who share your values.
Deepen connection
You want to feel like you were seen and heard, and like you made real connections. Through curated experiences, intentional gatherings, and a professionally managed community, you’ll cultivate relationships that nourish your soul and expand your world.
Gain confidence
It takes a lot of energy to stay confident in your sober lifestyle when you're surrounded by people who don’t get it. Being around like-minded women who see sobriety as a strength will deepen your self-trust and energize you to fully embrace your rich sober life.
What Makes Us Different
Other sober groups serve a purpose, and absolutely have their time and place.
But they are:
Focused on just getting sober— They’re designed for people struggling to string together consecutive sober days.
Often massive and impersonal— Large online groups can feel overwhelming and disconnected as folks filter in and out.
Casual meetups that provide alcohol-free activities but don’t prioritize depth and meaning, and you never know who will be there or if you’ll ever see them again.
OUR VISION
Through shared community culture, adventures, connecting more deeply with our truest selves, each other, and the world around us, we intentionally learn to flourish in our lives beyond alcohol/substances.
We believe sobriety is freedom, not a limitation. Our community is intentionally designed to help you build a thriving, elevated social life—one that’s richer, more connected, and more fulfilling than ever before.
Rooted in positive psychology and curated with intention, My Sober Girlfriends is where you find the support, inspiration, and deep connection to live fully in your power.
How the S.P.A.R.K. Framework Supports You
The S.P.A.R.K Framework is the heart of how I support women to build a deeply fulfilling life— not just free from alcohol-substances, but rich with meaning, connection, and joy.
This 5-part framework isn’t a checklist or structured program. It’s a guiding structure that meets you where you are, and helps you grow into who your’e meant to be. Each element works together to help you reconnect with yourself, others, and what truly matters.
Whether you’re in private coaching, a workshop, or a gathering, we use the S.P.A.R.K. Framework to guide us on our journey to sustainable, joyful sobriety.
Sobriety is better together.
You’ve done the hard part—you got sober. Now it’s time to stop searching, stop settling, and start thriving.
At My Sober Girlfriends, you’ll find:
—A professional community of inspiring women who truly get it
—Deep, meaningful connections—not just surface-level socializing
—Online and in-person events & experiences designed for an elevated sober lifestyle
No more awkward meetups, or explaining why you don’t drink. Here, sobriety isn’t just accepted—it’s celebrated.
Founder Naomi Veak on AM Northwest, sharing her take on the new sober/sober-curious movement.
You Need a Network of Wholehearted, Thriving Sober Professional Women.
In My Sober Girlfriends, we know that as a growth-oriented woman, you want to feel confident and proud of your choice to live a sober lifestyle.
You’re tired of explaining yourself, justifying your choices, or feeling like you’re just being tolerated because you’re sober… or you’re tolerating other people once they’re under the influence.
You’ve oriented your life toward expansion—mentally, emotionally, socially, and spiritually, and you’ve seen the research— the people we spend time with matters.
The Problem? At This Point, Most Sober Groups Aren’t What You’re Looking For.
Most sober communities fall into one of these categories:
Focused on early recovery & crisis support – Maybe you’re past this; maybe you never needed it at all.
Giant, impersonal online groups – Full of people you’ll never meet without local connections or real-life community.
Casual meetups for “sober-curious” folks – Offering activities without alcohol, not based on a fully conscious, empowered sober lifestyle.
Maybe you’ve already been there. Perhaps you’ve benefited from those spaces. But now you’re looking for something more.
Even in other wellness or professional groups, you still feel like the odd one out. When you share that you’re sober, you can feel the assumptions people make—assumptions that aren’t true.
You don’t need fixing. You’re not fragile. You’re not missing out!
But when you’re constantly surrounded by people who don’t fully get your lifestyle, it can feel isolating—even when you’re socially active. You need a space where sobriety is the norm, not the exception.
You shouldn’t have to feel like you are doing this alone.
We believe it’s a travesty that any successful, thriving, alcohol-free & substance-free woman should ever feel like her best decision isn’t fully supported and understood. You’ve chosen to live more deeply, clearly, and intentionally. You deserve a community that matches your level of awareness and expansion.
That’s why we created My Sober Girlfriends.
We’re realistic about life’s challenges. We’re forward-thinking. We use positive psychology, deep connection, and intentional experiences to build a life we love—together.
Who We Are:
A collective of intelligent, wholehearted, sober professional women and non-binary folks in the Portland metro area and beyond.
You might meet:
Therapists, yoga teachers, artists, and writers
Healthcare professionals, scientists, and educators
Entrepreneurs, executives, and MBA students
Positivity-focused, compassionate women who, like you, have chosen a fully present, alcohol and substance-free life.
Inside the off-Facebook membership hub, you’ll find:
✔ In-person events designed for deep connection.
✔ Online connection calls so you can engage when it works for you.
✔ Opportunities to co-host events and strengthen your social muscles.
Are You Ready to Feel Fully Supported in Your Sober Life?
Just because you may not fit in other boxes, you don’t have to navigate this journey alone.
Join us to start experiencing the reinforcement, confidence, and deep connection that comes from being surrounded by other thriving, sober professional women.
Your people are here.